Does love really make you blind?

Ro: Mulți dintre noi se gândesc la relatiile anterioare și se întreabă cum de nu au văzut înainte caracterul fostei/fostului. Ei bine, fiți atenți pentru că am să vă spun de ce nu ați “văzut” înainte.

Oamenii orbesc din multe motive. Banii te orbesc, iubirea etc. Adevărul este că este graznic să nu poți vedea ce se întâmplă chiar în fața ta.

Nu pot să nu mă întreb, oare asta este partea magică a iubirii? Tu să nu îi observi defectele celui iubit și nici el ție. Asta de fapt să fie puterea iubirii? Judecăm oameni zilnic în funcție de ce defecte au și totuși la persoana iubită trecem cu vederea. Brusc o persoană normală devine perfectă în mintea noastră. Toți ceilalți sunt nebuni și nu văd că de fapt ea chiar este perfectă. Trebuie sa recunoaștem ca este interesant.

Lucy Brown, doctor în neuroștiință la Albert Einstein College of Medicine a spus că iubirea nu te orbește, dar te face să vezi în ceață. Vezi defectele persoanei iubite însă creierul îți spune că este în regulă să le ignori.

Într-un studiu de la UCL s-au observat multe similarități între iubirea maternă și iubirea fața de iubit/soț. De fapt pentru orice fel de iubire este folosită aceeași parte a creierului, cortexul prefrontal. Parte care inhibă stările negative cât și judecata din punct de vedere social asupra persoanei. De aceea nu ne ascultăm prietenii.

Cum poate ceva atât de supraevaluat ca fiind pur și frumos să funcționeze ca o manipulare? O automanipulare. Suntem dispuși să facem asta pentru “câștigul” iubirii, a fericirii.

Ce este și mai interesant este că în același fel funcționează și multe droguri. Aceeași parte a creierului este implicată și în efectul drogurilor. Iar scopul este tot “câștigul” fericirii.

Oamenii de știință mai declară ca până nu trece pasiunea și flacăra de la începutul relației nu vei putea să vezi defectele persoanei iubite.

Ați fost vreodată “orbiți” de iubire? Dacă da, nu ezitați să distribuiți postarea.

EN: Many of us think about the past relationships and wonder how they couldn’t see the real character of the person they loved. Well, stay tuned because I am going to tell you why you didn’t. 

I had different kinds of relationships and in some I couldn’t see how boring they were, or how they weren’t very smart or how arrogant etc… All my friends told me again and again but I never really noticed. It’s like you are blind. 

People go blind for many things. Money makes you blind, love etc.. The truth is it’s terrible to not being able to see what is right before you. 

I can’t help but wonder, is this what’s so magical about love? The fact that you can’t see the flaws of the one you love and neither can he/she? We judge people everyday based on their flaws but when it comes to the one we love we just move past them. Suddenly a normal person becomes perfect in our mind. I have to admit this is interesting. 

Lucy Brown, doctor in neuroscience at Albert Einstein College of Medicine said that love doesn’t make you blind but it blurs your vision. You see the flaws from the person you love but your brain tells you it’s ok to ignore them. 

Reistad Long (UCL) said that there are many similarities between the maternal love and the love for your partner. Actually every kind of love uses the same parts of the brain, particularlt the prefrontal cortex. This part inhibits our negative emotions but also affects the network involved in maing social judgments about that person. This is why we don’t listen to our friends. 

How can be something so supremely pure and beautiful can work like a manipulation. An automanipulation. We accept this because of the “reward” of love, of happiness. 

What is even more interesting is that many drugs work in the same way as love. The same part of the brain is involved in the use of drugs and the purpose is the same. The “reward” of happiness. 

Science also declares that until the passion and the flame from the beggining passes you won’t be able to see the flaws from the one you love.

Did love “blind” you? If yes, don’t hesitate to share this post. 

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47 thoughts on “Does love really make you blind?

  1. I admit I was once gaga about a guy I was dating in my early 20s. He didn’t feel the same way about me and it made me crazy. Now that I’m older, I look back on this and realize how stupid I was. I think love definitely did make me blind back then.

  2. I think love certainly blinds us to the things we don’t want to see… but I think this is true with many things. I don’t love to think about how many calories were in that enchilada I ate, you know what I mean? Interesting subject and I wish you the best!

  3. I do think love can “blind” us to a degree. However, if you are not cautious enough to spend some time with someone and really getting to know them before jumping into a committed relationship with them, then that is not being “blinded by love” as much as it is not being very smart.

  4. Wow this is such an interesting read – the science of getting blinded by love is fascinating! Love this. I can relate to my own relationships. I have to admit, I’ve looked past the flaws of people I love 🙂

  5. I feel like to a certain extent love can be blind. My first serious relationship lasted 5 years. Then after moving on and being with my now husband I realize how much I changed for someone who judged me. When you are in love you always want to see the best in someone.

  6. Interesting theory. Some people call it the honeymoon period, where you over look the flaws that would normally irritate you! I think if we get into the habit of looking to only the positive, love will stay blind forever!

  7. I really think that love is blind, but that doesn’t always have to be negative. There are some things about myself and my boyfriend that other people would see as flaws but they’re things that we love about each other. It’s a personal thing I guess 🙂

  8. wow – how interesting about how the first “flames” of that spark of attraction/love will “blind” you for seeing flaws. Not sure that is totally the case, but I think that it helps buffer a bit of it. Maybe. haha…

  9. This is a delicate subject for some yet so universal. It’s good to know that ‘love doesn’t make you blind, but it blurs your vision’. This means there is still a chance to see and find the flawless that in a ‘normal circumstance’ is obvious to see.

  10. “but your brain tells you it’s ok to ignore them. ” is what gets me. Getting out of a toxic long term relationship and then seeing it from the outside has really made me realize that our brains really do that. it’s hard and frustrating to not be able to see the truth throughout.

  11. This is super interesting. I wonder about the different types of love and from what part of the brain they stem from.

  12. I don’t think it makes you blind, I think it makes you more willing to look passed certain aspects of your partner because their pros outweigh their cons.

  13. Very cool read! I think that I can relate to being blinded by love – after having three children it seems like all the little things just disappear when you see their smiling faces.

  14. Wow what an interesting concept!! I think for awhile love does make you blind, but once you get over that initial infatuation, you can see clearer.

  15. I definitely feel like love blinds us. In past relationships I couldn’t see certain things that were right in my face until after it ended.

  16. it’s weird isn’t it, I think to an extent, lust makes us blind because we don’t see the flaws that are there past the wanting but for me, love is seeing the flaws and accepting them, you’re not perfect and neither are they. If love really made us blind, there would be fewer divorces! it’s definitely interesting though

  17. I don’t necessarily know that I agree it makes you “blind” but it does seem to encourage you to weigh the good far stronger than the bad. It’s like you see the bad qualities but you feel the good qualities more than make up for it. I’ve never been “blind” to the bad qualities of a partner but I have, at times, chosen to overlook them.

  18. I think it’s true that we tend to not see what the people we love are doing, it’s something that we either let pass or we just love them so much that we don’t really mind if it’s good or not. That’s probably why we realize that they’re toxic when the relationship is over or when the love starts to fade.

  19. I think that real love, lasting love, is only a temporary blindness. Once you are with someone long enough you see their faults and you have to learn how to work through them as they see your’s.

  20. I think people often forget to look at the real person they’re with, before the relationships goes too far, instead of the potential they see in the person. I think many women look at men for who they could be, rather than who they are, and they end up settling without knowing it until later.

  21. Yes I believe love is blind, for a while that is. Once you realize how unhappy and how much hurt the other person has caused, you wake up and let it go and move on. Wow I sound like it happened to me lol.. no but I have seen it happen to loved ones. No matter how much advice you give a person in love they wont listen until they wake up and snap out of it all on their own.

  22. It can definitely make you turn a blind eye to things that might normally bother you. The saddest part is when you can’t accept the truth because you are only seeing what you want.

  23. This is a really interesting post. It’s something I’ve never really thought about. I think that love can be blind, but only for those who make it that way. Love is an amazing open thing.

  24. This is so interesting. I definitely think love can blind you to certain things over time. That’s one of the reasons communication and transparency are so important.

  25. This is such a great read. I do believe that in some ways love makes you blind. There are some things you don’t want to see in the other person because you love them so much.

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