Does love really make you blind?

Many of us think about the past relationships and wonder how they couldn’t see the real character of the person they loved. Well, stay tuned because I am going to tell you why you didn’t.

I had different kinds of relationships and in some I couldn’t see how boring they were, or how they weren’t very smart or how arrogant etc… All my friends told me again and again but I never really noticed. It’s like you are blind.

People go blind for many things. Money makes you blind, love etc.. The truth is it’s terrible to not being able to see what is right before you.

I can’t help but wonder, is this what’s so magical about love? The fact that you can’t see the flaws of the one you love and neither can he/she? We judge people everyday based on their flaws but when it comes to the one we love we just move past them. Suddenly a normal person becomes perfect in our mind. I have to admit this is interesting.

Lucy Brown, doctor in neuroscience at Albert Einstein College of Medicine said that love doesn’t make you blind but it blurs your vision. You see the flaws from the person you love but your brain tells you it’s ok to ignore them.

Reistad Long (UCL) said that there are many similarities between the maternal love and the love for your partner. Actually every kind of love uses the same parts of the brain, particularlt the prefrontal cortex. This part inhibits our negative emotions but also affects the network involved in maing social judgments about that person. This is why we don’t listen to our friends.

How can be something so supremely pure and beautiful can work like a manipulation. An automanipulation. We accept this because of the “reward” of love, of happiness.

What is even more interesting is that many drugs work in the same way as love. The same part of the brain is involved in the use of drugs and the purpose is the same. The “reward” of happiness.

Science also declares that until the passion and the flame from the beggining passes you won’t be able to see the flaws from the one you love.

Did love “blind” you? If yes, don’t hesitate to share this post.

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47 comments
  1. Interesting concept. I know that love can make you not see the parts you do not want. If that is being blind, then yes, I think it can!

    1. Thank you💋❤ It’s really interesting how the brain works and we don’t even realise.

  2. I admit I was once gaga about a guy I was dating in my early 20s. He didn’t feel the same way about me and it made me crazy. Now that I’m older, I look back on this and realize how stupid I was. I think love definitely did make me blind back then.

    1. I’m sorry to hear you had your heart broken. But that’s life. This makes you stronger.

  3. I think love certainly blinds us to the things we don’t want to see… but I think this is true with many things. I don’t love to think about how many calories were in that enchilada I ate, you know what I mean? Interesting subject and I wish you the best!

    1. thank you very much❤

  4. This is very interesting. Seeing the positives in a person can be fine if that person is right for you, but is terrible if that person is wrong for you.

    1. Yes, you are so right.

  5. I do think love can “blind” us to a degree. However, if you are not cautious enough to spend some time with someone and really getting to know them before jumping into a committed relationship with them, then that is not being “blinded by love” as much as it is not being very smart.

  6. Wow this is such an interesting read – the science of getting blinded by love is fascinating! Love this. I can relate to my own relationships. I have to admit, I’ve looked past the flaws of people I love 🙂

    1. Thank you very much😊

  7. I feel like to a certain extent love can be blind. My first serious relationship lasted 5 years. Then after moving on and being with my now husband I realize how much I changed for someone who judged me. When you are in love you always want to see the best in someone.

  8. Interesting theory. Some people call it the honeymoon period, where you over look the flaws that would normally irritate you! I think if we get into the habit of looking to only the positive, love will stay blind forever!

    1. but that wouldn’t be necessarily good..

  9. I really think that love is blind, but that doesn’t always have to be negative. There are some things about myself and my boyfriend that other people would see as flaws but they’re things that we love about each other. It’s a personal thing I guess 🙂

    1. It’s very good. But there is a difference in not seeing and accepting..

  10. wow – how interesting about how the first “flames” of that spark of attraction/love will “blind” you for seeing flaws. Not sure that is totally the case, but I think that it helps buffer a bit of it. Maybe. haha…

  11. Yes! I wished that I would have listened to family and friends at that time. I think that’s just something we have to learn and find out on our own.

  12. This is a delicate subject for some yet so universal. It’s good to know that ‘love doesn’t make you blind, but it blurs your vision’. This means there is still a chance to see and find the flawless that in a ‘normal circumstance’ is obvious to see.

  13. I couldn’t agree more, especially since I have been blinded by love when I was much younger. Thankfully, I’m now married to the love of my life! 🙂

  14. I think love can make you more patient with flaws in other not necessarily blind but willing to let things go.

  15. “but your brain tells you it’s ok to ignore them. ” is what gets me. Getting out of a toxic long term relationship and then seeing it from the outside has really made me realize that our brains really do that. it’s hard and frustrating to not be able to see the truth throughout.

  16. This is such an interesting topic, and something I’ve never really thought about. Its mad to think that many drugs work like love!

  17. This is super interesting. I wonder about the different types of love and from what part of the brain they stem from.

  18. This is very interesting! From past relationships I can see that love does somewhat blur your vision-you let things slip more than you would with others.

  19. I don’t think it makes you blind, I think it makes you more willing to look passed certain aspects of your partner because their pros outweigh their cons.

  20. Very cool read! I think that I can relate to being blinded by love – after having three children it seems like all the little things just disappear when you see their smiling faces.

  21. I think love can definitely be blind… hopefully it’s not to awful flaws, but more benign things like annoying habits! (This is definitely the case with my husband and I… he thankfully overlooks my quirks!)

  22. What an interesting way to look at love. I found the comparison to drugs a way to understand how love might alter your alter your pereception

  23. Wow what an interesting concept!! I think for awhile love does make you blind, but once you get over that initial infatuation, you can see clearer.

  24. I definitely feel like love blinds us. In past relationships I couldn’t see certain things that were right in my face until after it ended.

  25. I am not sure it makes you blind so much a s more accepting….Which in a sense is blindness as I accept things from my partner that i would not accept from anyone else

  26. it’s weird isn’t it, I think to an extent, lust makes us blind because we don’t see the flaws that are there past the wanting but for me, love is seeing the flaws and accepting them, you’re not perfect and neither are they. If love really made us blind, there would be fewer divorces! it’s definitely interesting though

  27. It definitely does. I overlook all the flaws in the other person because their strengths are way more important to me <3

  28. Interesting; the brain is a complex and fascinating topic. Love definitely does cause me to overlook things I have no interest in overlooking for strangers.

  29. I have never been in love but I think that love can make you blind as I have seen it happen to my friends before. They seem to do things that they would not normally do.

  30. I don’t necessarily know that I agree it makes you “blind” but it does seem to encourage you to weigh the good far stronger than the bad. It’s like you see the bad qualities but you feel the good qualities more than make up for it. I’ve never been “blind” to the bad qualities of a partner but I have, at times, chosen to overlook them.

  31. I think it’s true that we tend to not see what the people we love are doing, it’s something that we either let pass or we just love them so much that we don’t really mind if it’s good or not. That’s probably why we realize that they’re toxic when the relationship is over or when the love starts to fade.

  32. I think that real love, lasting love, is only a temporary blindness. Once you are with someone long enough you see their faults and you have to learn how to work through them as they see your’s.

  33. I think people often forget to look at the real person they’re with, before the relationships goes too far, instead of the potential they see in the person. I think many women look at men for who they could be, rather than who they are, and they end up settling without knowing it until later.

  34. Yes I believe love is blind, for a while that is. Once you realize how unhappy and how much hurt the other person has caused, you wake up and let it go and move on. Wow I sound like it happened to me lol.. no but I have seen it happen to loved ones. No matter how much advice you give a person in love they wont listen until they wake up and snap out of it all on their own.

  35. It can definitely make you turn a blind eye to things that might normally bother you. The saddest part is when you can’t accept the truth because you are only seeing what you want.

  36. I think infatuation can make you blind but not real love. I think also once you are with some one long enough that you can see their faults.

  37. This is a really interesting post. It’s something I’ve never really thought about. I think that love can be blind, but only for those who make it that way. Love is an amazing open thing.

  38. This is so interesting. I definitely think love can blind you to certain things over time. That’s one of the reasons communication and transparency are so important.

  39. This is such a great read. I do believe that in some ways love makes you blind. There are some things you don’t want to see in the other person because you love them so much.

  40. Oooo this definitely gives you something to think about!! I think that yes, love can definitely be blind since it can make us ignore things we shouldn’t

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